If you’ve just found out that your spouse has been having an affair, you are feeling hurt and betrayed. That’s perfectly normal. Today, I want to talk to you about three things you need to know if you have a cheating wife or husband.
Details of the Affair Don’t Bring Closure
The first thing you need to know is that details of the affair won’t bring you closure. It is perfectly normal to think that if you only had all the details, the who, the where, the when, the how often, and the why that would give you peace. As a divorce lawyer, I’m going to tell you that that simply isn’t the case. In fact, the more information you get, often, the more upset you become.
Don’t Tell the Kids
The second thing you need to know is not to tell your kids. I know you are feeling a lot of hurt and betrayal It’s perfectly natural to want your partner to feel that way too. People sometimes think by exposing the details of the affair to their children and other family members, that they themselves will feel better. They won’t. But it will hurt your children.
Your children need to know that you both love them. That changes may be happening to your family but you will both continue to be there to support them.
Get Legal Advice
The third thing you need to know is that now is the time to get legal advice. Whether you intend to stay in the marriage and work towards reconciliation, or ultimately you decide to divorce, you need to know what your options are. If you decide to stay in the marriage, there are things you can do to help protect yourself, now and in the future, like perhaps a marital property agreement.
If you decide to divorce, you need to move forward in a way that will help you protect your best outcome. A scorched earth divorce, where you try to hurt and humiliate the other person, only benefits the lawyers. A lot of times, a cooperative or collaborative divorce process will help you leverage your current circumstances to gain the very best outcome. Contact us today to learn how we can help you.
