A recent study of over 3,000 people found that the more couples spend on their weddings, the higher their chances of divorce. Jennifer Hargrave, owner and managing partner of Hargrave Family Law, joins the discussion to shed light on why this might be the case. She notes that while weddings are beautiful celebrations, an extravagant focus on the event itself—rather than the relationship—can create strain. Additionally, financial stress from wedding-related debt can lead to early marital conflicts. Jennifer highlights that couples who haven’t had crucial financial discussions before marriage may feel trapped by the financial commitment rather than making the best decision for their future. While eloping isn’t a guaranteed path to marital success, keeping priorities in check when planning a wedding may set a stronger foundation for a lasting marriage.

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Host: A new study surveyed over 3,000 people and found that spending big on your wedding increases the chances of divorce. Joining us now is friend of the show and managing partner of Hargrave Family Law, Jennifer Hargrave. Jennifer, are you surprised by these findings?

Jennifer Hargrave: Not at all. In fact, I’d bet that the more you spend on a wedding, the more you might end up spending on a divorce.

Host: What do you think is the connection?

Jennifer Hargrave: There could be several reasons. A wedding is a wonderful, celebratory event—bringing family together and marking a new beginning. But sometimes, the focus shifts from the marriage itself to the event, turning into this machine that takes on a life of its own. After the wedding, couples might find themselves facing the reality of their relationship and wondering, What did we just do?

Host: I have another theory—when couples spend so much on a wedding, they often start married life already deep in debt. As we know, financial stress is a major source of conflict in relationships.

Jennifer Hargrave: Absolutely. In fact, many couples argue over finances while planning the wedding, which may already be a sign of trouble. The bigger issue is that many haven’t had those crucial financial conversations before getting married. When you’ve invested so much money into the wedding, it becomes harder to walk away, even if you realize it might not be the right decision.

Host: Of course, this doesn’t mean that eloping guarantees a successful marriage either. But it’s definitely something to think about. Jennifer Hargrave, always great insight. Thanks for joining us today!

Jennifer Hargrave: Thank you! And it was great seeing you last night at the event.

Host: That’s Jennifer Hargrave of Hargrave Family Law—appreciate your time!